Merry Christmas

I know its been a while.  What have we been up to?  Healing and doing are best to find normal again.  My kids are getting better every day.  Here is another thing we have been doing.

My husband has a thing for Christmas lights and in our new house he was able to dig out his boxes and dive in to this hobby again after years where it just was not conducive to where we lived. 

Here is our house this year :)  I love the joy it brings!  I am probably going to be caught up in life and spending time with my family so have a wonderful, joyous Christmas season!  I'll talk to you in the new year!

Much love from The Timm Family :) 

PS here is another video of Josh helping Jason hang lights.  Jason is afraid of heights but Josh is not :)

Triage

The needs in my family right now are many.  They are intense and require a lot of attention.  I long to walk beside each one, intimately and intensely caring for each need that arises almost like an ICU nurse would do.  Where the rest of the world is sort of shut out and I am left to focus on the one child and his or her needs until they become stable.

Alas I am just one mommy and I am forced to play triage.  I go from one crisis to the next and then back again giving what I can at the time to avert the crisis.  It is exhausting.  I am not strong enough to take it all on.

There is One who is though and I am so thankful that when I am weak He is strong and while I can't be everywhere at once He is omnipresent.   This week I have been overwhelmed and have not been relying on God's strength to get me through.  I have been reminded that my mere humanity will never be enough to meet all of the needs of my family.  

I found this song yesterday by one of my favorite artists.  I love it, its so fitting for me right now.  I hope you will take a moment to enjoy it.

On another note David has decided that everyone needs a pair of eye cases to protect your eyes when you go in a skyscraper.  You know those skyscrapers can be hard on the eyes.  ;)

 Bekah made a Thankful Turkey all on her own. (from pinky to thumb the fingers/feathers read: my family, my house, my dog, insulin, my pump)

Megan finished her first session of horse camp.  (Its a therapeutic program that Catholic Community Services paid for her to attend)  She fell in love with a horse named Maddy

There is beauty in the midst of the crisises and I am resolved this week to keep my eyes on the beauty and not the crisis at hand.  

Hard to write about...

Depression is HARD.  Its hard to talk about, its even hard (for me anyway) to write about.  My family has been thrown in to the depths of the ugliness that depression is.  I am so thankful that both of my older two children have been able to ask for help before it was "too late".  We are working through things with the help of a wonderful organization, Catholic Community Services. 

Just as we are gaining hope for Megan as we are seeing her getting stronger and healing, Josh had another trip to the ER this week.  His depression had not been severe enough for him to qualify for CCS's services until now.  I have honestly been more concerned for him and lost more sleep over my worry about him over the past several weeks than I have Megan.  I know she is getting the help she needs and is going to come out of this ok.  Josh was just floating out there grasping for the help he could get but it was not doing much for him.  Now he has the solid help he needs through CCS and I am hopeful for him and for our family. 

What does this solid help look like you might be wondering.  CCS assigns each child in their care a therapist who is on 24hrs M-F and then there is always an on call person on the weekend.  They meet with their therapist at least once a week and then have at least one family session with this therapist each week.  They are assigned a Family Support person and a Community Support person.  Between these two the child has 2 hour sessions out in the community (playing board games at the library, working out at the YMCA, walking the mall, doing crafts, getting an ice cream etc.) 5-7 times a week.  The FS and the CS are trained in crisis management and work together with the Therapist to help the child meet certain goals.  There are also Wrap meeting from time to time where the child's natural support (friends, family etc) are invited and they are given ideas in which they can utilize their strengths to help the child meet certain goals.    They also offer med management through CCS.  All of this is covered 100% by our insurance. I love the real life holistic approach and I feel so blessed that we found them and have them working with us. 

Invisible Illness Week

Look at that beautiful girl!  She looks like every other kid on the first day of a new school year standing by the door, anxiously waiting to meet her new classmates and teacher.  There are some things that you don't know about this girl unless you really know her and that is how it should be. 

If you were to watch a group of children playing on the playground, you would probably never know which one checks her blood sugar 10+ times a day unless you look very closely at her freckled finger tips. As you watch the joy and laughter of these children playing, you would never guess that one of them has a life expectancy that is 15 years shorter than the rest. You might notice that cute little fanny pack or belt that one of them is wearing and though you might never give it a second thought, the reality is that with in that pouch lies her life line, her insulin pump that gives her a tiny drop of insulin every four minutes and that is what keeps her alive and well. As the children eat their lunch you see how carefree they are to eat what they feel like eating while one of them knows that all of her carbs must be eaten or she may get very sick. One of them, though you'd never know it by looking at her had to visit the nurse right before lunch to check her blood sugar and get her insulin so she could eat her lunch.

If you were to see her mom you might notice the bags under her eyes or the tired look she has and assume that her toddler is teething again or her four kids keep her very busy. While that is true, what you don't see is that she is up checking blood sugars around the clock and the constant worry is what is really wearing on her.

Do I want this illness to be seen and pitied? I don't want or need pity and while I would love for others to understand, I know if I am doing my job correctly that this illness will go unnoticed and be virtually invisible by the rest of the world. That as others look at my daughter playing and having fun that none would be the wiser to the battle that rages inside of her body as her immune system violently attacks and murders her insulin producing beta cells. I will do my best to keep the possible complications at bay and help her live as full a life as possible. Yes, if I am doing my job correctly you would never know unless told that my daughter has T1D.

Can't get them outta my head

It's Friday night and our family is about to sit down to a game of Cities and Knights.  My thoughts keep turning to Meri and her boys.  What is their favorite family game?  Will they be able to play it again with out Ryan around to play with them?  Would we be able to play strategy games like Cities and Knights if Jason weren't here to share in the fun?

Our families have a lot in common.  Meri and Ryan had a once in a lifetime kind of love.  They were married for 19 years.  Meri always posts a sappy anniversary post.  I love these posts because it reminds me of Jason and I who have been married 20 years.  I love the way Meri loves Ryan.  Its rare to find a marriage today with so much devotion and respect.  Three of Meri's boys are the same ages as three of my children. One of her children is obsessed with pie, my Bekah is obsessed with pie.  Their family has a deep faith, our family has a deep faith.  Ryan even looked a little like Jason. 

Saturday mornings they had a routine in their house where Ryan would make these amazing breakfasts.  Meri used to post pictures and I would always drool over them.  Tomorrow morning Ryan should be making breakfast.  His family should not be saying a final public goodbye.  Ugh!  My heart just aches for them.

Please continue to pray for this precious family! 

Life is not fair...

My heart is broken for my friend Meri.  Meri has been my light when the darkness of diabetes has been thick.  Meri has always encouraged me and never judged or said that her way was the best way.  Meri is amazing!  Meri has 4 equally amazing boys, 3 of whom have type one diabetes.  The oldest of these was dx at 7 months of age.  Meri has pretty much seen it all when it comes to diabetes and her wisdom is worth its weight in gold.  Although she is the writer in the family (her blog is amazing) and the face for her family, its really her and her husband Ryan and their boys together that shine the light in to so many homes in those dark hours.  They are a team and a beautiful one at that. 

Six months ago Ryan was dx with cancer and he fought a gallant fight.  This morning (Sept 2, 2012) Meri and her boys held this man that they love so much and said goodbye as our Heavenly Father took Ryan's spirit and made him whole.  This team will still shine as their light is too bright to be extinguished but they will never be the same.  I am so glad that I got to know Ryan through Meri's writing.  He was an amazing dad and husband, terrific friend and champion to his family.  My guess is he only loved God more than the other 5 people that lived in his home.  
 

Meri, I wish I could hold some of the pain you must be feeling right now.  I love you to pieces and am so thankful that God has allowed you and your family to play a part in my life!  You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. 

Concussion

On Sunday, my older two kids went swimming with some friends.  They were having a blast using a rope to swing themselves in to the water.  Megan went once and  had no problems.  On Megan's second time, her hand slipped and she fell face first, hitting a rock.  The mom of the kids' friends called me and asked if she should bring Megan home or meet us at the hospital, my husband and I decided that we would just meet her at the hospital.  The mom told us Meg had never lost consciousnesses and at the time was dazed but could relay exactly what happened.  We figured better safe than sorry.  I am so glad we made the decision that we did becuase this is what I saw when I got to the hospital

We got very lucky that she needed no stitches, had no broken bones and didn't loose any teeth.  She did however have a concussion and a nasty contusion on her face.  Her hand is hurting and her legs are pretty bruised up.  I feel so fortunate that she was not hurt worse.  The blood was coming from some small lacerations inside of her mouth.  She has been a bit dizzy but seems to be recovering well.  

Megan has also been a bit confused.  Tonight we were talking about needing brown sugar for a peach crisp that I was making.  Jason he could get a box for $2.  Megan disagreed, "No way Dad," she said.  "you can get a big bag for like $1.98"  um same difference right?  We all burst out laughing! 

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Serenity

A friend of mine gets prophetic words for people and then stitches them on a quilted heart.  A few years ago even before Bekah was dx, we went through major financial trouble and found out about the older kids' struggles with depression, she gave me the word serenity.

					se·ren·i·ty/səˈrenitē/ Noun: The state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled: "an oasis of serenity". A title given to a reigning prince or similar dignitary. Synonyms: calm - calmness - tranquillity - peace - composure In the midst of the storms that have raged around my family, God has been my oasis of serenity.  He has given me serenity beyond what I could ever imagine. Megan returned home from the hospital for the second time early in July.  Everyday she would tell us how much she disliked being at home becuase she couldn't shake the memories and thoughts that brought her to a place where we had to call an ambulance to save her life just a few weeks prior.  (not going to share any more details than that, lets just say it was the scariest day of my life and I am so thankful we still have her with us) We all really needed a fresh start, but how? We are barely making ends meet now with Jason's new job and that is by the grace of God.  There is no way we can afford higher rent for a bigger place esp with deposit and last months rent added on.  It seemed insurmountable but God is still a God of miracles and I began to cry out in desperation for what I felt my family needed.  We saw that friends of ours had a house for rent that they had moved out of a few months prior.  We thought they had renters but apparently the possible renters backed out at the last minute.  So we went and looked at their house but again the price was a little high and a deposit was not possible for us to come up with.  We shared this with them and they felt like we were supposed to move in so decided to finance the deposit in with the rent and come down a bit on the rent until Jason gets a raise which has been talked about but not happening just yet.   In just over a two week period of time we packed our house and moved, cleaned the other house and turned our keys over.   The peace that is in this home is amazing!  I heard God whisper to me today that our home's name is Serenity.  Perfect. Here is our new dwelling and I feel so incredibly blessed to call this my home :) Daddy working hard at painting Bekah's room (she chose the wall color and it matches her bedding perfectly) Bekah's room, she did the stickers all on her own Megan loves mustaches the boys playing video games in the living room our room we don't have to share with David anymore David's room more of our room Megan's room (you can see her pet turtle Shark) kitchen more of Megan's room There is even a shelf in the kitchen that is perfect for D supplies (left to right jelly beans, sharps container, glucose tabs, lotion, pump pouches, hand wipes on top, band-aids, glucogon, sites, extra test strips, lancets, a few syringes and needle nose pliers and a few other misc things in that bucket, cartridges,  extra tubing and alcohol wipes, prize box, regular and travel version of the Salter Nutriweigh food scale and out in front are the measuring cups that are in the form of Russian Dolls) I also have a whole room to do laundry in and I did not photograph Josh's room yet becuase it is a work in progress as we are building him a space of his own in the garage.  Yes indeed God is in the business of working miracles!

Disney 2012

Because we were already so close and with the military discount being so great for tickets we could not pass up the opportunity to take the kids to Disney.  One of Jason's co-workers paid for a meal with the princesses at Ariel's Grotto for our family.  What a blessed family time!  :)  I will let the pictures tell the story.

 

IMATS LA 2012

My husband recently got a job with a company that produces a magazine and holds trade shows.  His job is as the IT director.  The magazine is Make-Up Artist Magazine and the trade show called IMATS .  In June was the second trade show during his time working there and the kids were just getting out of school.  They did have to miss the last couple of days of school to be able to join Jason but it was so worth it.  Jason's boss gave him cash instead of paying for an airline ticket that we used for gas money and he paid for a hotel room for our whole family.  Our teens volunteered to help out at the show.

We hit the road, packing 6 people and one dog in our SUV and luggage along with somethings needed for the show in a Uhaul and traveled down the I-5 corridor to the LA area.  We had not even gotten 5 miles when the air-conditioner on our car decided to quit working.  It was quite miserable as we hit central CA in the 100s with no a/c.

1100 miles after our departure, felt a little like something out of Chevy Chase's "Vacation" as we pulled in to the hotel.  Hot, sweaty, cranky kids and dog with parents who had a great wind blown look going and a Uhaul closing the rear.  The hotel it self was amazing.  My husband's boss definitely treats his employees well.  We had a fruit and cookie basket waiting for us when we go to the room.  I felt so spoiled!

At the trade show each of the kids had a unique experience:

 Megan got to meet Ve Neil who was the lead make-up artist for The Hunger Games (Meg's favorite movie)

Bekah got a little glitter done by the Eye Kandy people

Josh got to be a model in one of the classes taught by some famous make up artists that did work on Pirates of the Caribbean

David got to have a tiger face done by a make up artist

We got to meet the winner of Face Off (a reality tv show), Rayce.

Here is David's progress.  you can tell he is really in to the make-up thing.  Actually to be honest every morning he has to have make-up on when I put my make-up on.  On no make up days he sadly will say to me "we didn't do make-up today".

There was a make-up museum that was there with some amazing wax models and masks.  Some of Rick Baker's aliens from Men In Black 3 were on display along with a lot of other talent displayed.

I didn't get a good photo but at each trade show is a student competition where students in the industry are chosen to compete to show off their skills in their craft.   

It was really cool to watch my hubby in his element as he made all of the technology for the show work.  I loved getting to know Jason's boss and family better during this trip.  They have become fast friends of ours.  We adore them and are so thankful to have them  in our lives.